I'm also commemorating the occasion by rereading "The Resident Tourist". Love that.
A maid would have been really nice in some ways, it's a unique situation in Singapore that allows that to be very affordable, but it would mean Hamish would essentially have a 2nd mommy. We would miss so much, and we'd be ceding our responsibility. It's hard not to feel like this is better for our lives right now. And I haven't even gotten into the fact that we can see our families now. We don't see them constantly, but they're not totally missing Hamish growing up either. I'm sure I do a better job of staying in touch when we're on the same time zone at least. There would be some real tension for us having Hamish in Singapore and our parents constantly asking when our next trip was. I do want to go back to Singapore again, but I would be okay if I could somehow do it without ever taking that flight again. sailing trip?
Back to fitting in in America, I don't think we've had any problem reassimilating. We do live in a bigger city with at least access to a lot of diversity. We don't always lead into introductions with mention of Singapore, but usually when it comes up people are interested and intrigued. As a matter of fact, I don't think anyone here has made the mistake of confusing Singapore with China. There are definitely people who just kind of don't understand anything but America, and as such, they don't always care too much to ask any further questions about what life was like there, but it's not this weird disconnect between us and them.